Do less for others (and they'll feel better about themselves).
Sep 06, 2022
Do you do and do and do for others? What are the downsides and the benefits? ā€ØWhile my focus is on parenting, this applies to most relationships.
Benefits:
- You feel better when doing and giving.
- You feel more in control.
- Your child may truly need you to step in.
- Some things just need to be taken care of.
- You truly believe you’re doing something good.
Downsides:
- They take you for granted.
- You feel resentment.
- They come to expect that you’ll always do for them.
- You worry that they’re becoming dependent on you.
- They stop believing in themselves because you stop believing in them.
- They don’t have chances to fix their mistakes.
- They lose confidence and motivation.
The reality is that good intentions often work against us and the children we love.
The more we do for them, the less they are able to do for themselves. And even though they push back, our children desperately need us to nudge them into taking responsibility for themselves.
This is our fundamental job as parents: to prepare our children for life on their own.
Where can you let go and let your children experience more of life?
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