Do You Want to Be Right or To Have a Relationship?
Apr 15, 2026
“An argument is always about what has been made more important than the relationship.” Hugh Prather
Think about how disconnected you may be feeling from your teen or young adult.
When you’re worried about them, the decisions they’re making, and whether or not they can handle what’s coming around the bend, do you go into control mode? Are you trying to prevent mistakes and crises?
You want them to have the advantage of all your hard-won knowledge and experience. But when you do, it turns into an argument or door slamming (and maybe it’s you slamming the door!).
Odds are good your teen is seeing it as you needing to be right and to impose your way on them. And they’d be right.
It’s also a real challenge because you talk to them as if they are rational, open-minded people. They’re not.
And they’re not programmed to be this way during adolescence. You can’t begin with logical steps to a goal with many of them.
They’re too busy doing the work of separating from you and finding their own way, their own place.
Of course, it’s all done with love and the best of intentions, but…they don’t feel your good intentions; they feel you standing in their way. That means you have to find another way in.
What if it could be different? What if you could open minds, yours and theirs?
You can.
One of my strengths is upleveling communication, using language swaps, and scripting better conversations. If this sounds like something you’ve been waiting for, let’s talk.
Schedule your complimentary Parent Transformation Session. Just you and me. Solid communication is the way in. Schedule HERE. I can help.
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