Who will be the disciplinarian?
Mar 12, 2024
It’s common for parenting partners to have different strengths and challenges when it comes to making decisions about the kids. After all, you’re individuals with a variety of experiences and beliefs.
For example, one of you may be reactive, while the other is more even-tempered. Or maybe your partner is consistent with discipline and you are the soft touch. It can be quite difficult to find a middle ground.
How do you present a united front and come to agreement about decisions and discipline?
𝑻𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓’𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒈𝒕𝒉𝒔.
If you are inconsistent and not effective at following through on consequences, hand it off to your partner. This is too important to let your ego get in the way.
There is no shame. Think of it as a safety net of sorts for providing your kids with limits and growing responsibility.
There are times your kids need a firm hand. They will deny it, but they are craving the safety of limits and boundaries. Giving in gives them power they cannot handle.
Talk it over. Decide who will be the enforcer. If it's not you, take a back seat.
Even if you don’t agree 100% on the discipline, can you agree to back up your partner? to be the silent partner?
Your kids are depending on you to do this for them. Who will be the enforcer of discipline?
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